Sunday, February 6, 2011
What do girls look for in a guy? What do guys look for in girls? I’ve heard it all to answers to these questions. The thing about answering these questions is there is no real answer. It’s too general of a question for such a personalized opinion. As an example, lots of girls say they look for a good sense of humor as being most important quality in a guy, but any class clown knows that is a lie. Well now that I have explained no one can answer that question, I will try and do so. The one quality that I find most people can use to increase their personal appeal is confidence! Even that has its exceptions, but I feel most guys and girls want a partner that is confident in themselves. Tonight I learned a lesson on confidence.
When Samantha and I rolled up to practice being pirates I noticed that she had an extra sense of confidence in herself. I could see it in her eyes. I don’t know if it was that or the pirate garb itself but she looked stunning. I know you are thinking, “Stunning? In pirate rags?” I find it hard to believe myself and the only thing I could attribute it to was her sense of confidence in what she was doing. She knew she was good at something and could put on quite the show. It was fascinating to see her do her thing. She hadn’t done it in a while but after dusting off some of the cobwebs she was really good at it. Lets be honest, who doesn’t like to try and impress someone they are dating?
On the other hand there was me. I had a complete lack of confidence in my performance. After a few moments I noticed I wasn’t going to pick up on this very quickly. Now I don’t really know how she felt but I felt like I was less attractive due to my inabilities. If I could go back I would have put on a more confident face and just went a little more with it.
Dinner was at Chili’s, one of my favorite places to hang out and eat. We had the chance to talk about what we had done in between our dates. She had a few more acting gigs and it was pretty obvious what I had been doing. I’ll tell you some of my favorite things about Samantha I thought about at dinner. First, she knows how to have fun. Second, she smiles a lot. Third, she has very good intentions. Lastly, I respect how she carries herself. I feel of all the girls I went out with, Samantha was judged the most harshly. She never did anything bad to deserve it. For some reason I feel girls have a certain perception of how all girls should act. When they don’t act accordingly its like I always say, “Girls be judgin’!” However, Samantha never hated back on any of her criticism. She never even complained to me about any of it, and in my mind that makes her an even better person.
Well that ended our voyage for the night, but not first without another kiss. As I walked away I thought of what a good night it was. Samantha really knows how to win a guys heart. I like that!
Posted by The Mormon Bachelorette at 8:00 AM