Friday, January 14, 2011
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Every once in a while I get a deep thought that I normally never get to share. Now that I have an audience I will share a thought I had with you. You see I’m a person that wears his heart and mind on his sleeve. In other words, I live a very vulnerable life. As a consequence I get critiqued a lot, and sometimes even made fun of. I know that’s hard to believe. What’s strange is most people I see go about their life protecting and hiding that vulnerable side of themselves. I wonder why that is. Aren’t the people that love us the most the same people with whom we let down our guard? My closest relationships are the ones where people know my every flaw and appreciate my every quirk. It’s so much easier for me to establish a connection when I don’t have to first tear down the walls of an image trying to be upheld.
This leads right into my date with Sara Foster. Sara came up with a creative date of Geo Caching. Most probably won’t know what that is. Basically it is a world wide scavenger hunt where people go around finding mementos that other people have hidden. You can find the coordinates on a website and go around looking for them. So we both got on our bikes and headed out to Geo cache.
Toward the middle of the date I noticed something different. I found myself not asking that many questions to Sara, nor was I taking normal steps I would make on a first date. Then again, I didn’t have to, because Sara has little if any “walls”. I was able to get to know her just by interacting with her. She was refreshingly vulnerable. If she wanted to make a silly beeping noise while backing up her bike, she did. When she saw the statue of a nude person, she pointed it out. She thought I was terrible at riding bikes, so she made fun of me for it. It didn’t take long for me to feel a connection with Sara. She was vulnerable and it gave me a chance to see who she was whether I liked it or not.
After Geo caching we went to a small ice cream sandwich shop. There we had time to just talk with each other. I learned that a girl can grow up in a small town, run in track, be an engineer and still be socially adept. She found out I didn’t like musicals and wasn’t a Batman nut. We also had fun analyzing the random couple at the table next to us. After little debate we labeled the couple “friends with benefits.”
Before I knew it it was the end of the date and I hadn’t even made a move. Dang it! I hope she doesn’t mistake that for not being interested because Sara is beautiful inside and out. I really wanted the date to keep going, but I guess it’s always best to be left wanting more. Hopefully she felt the same. We hugged at the door, and like you always do at the end of a date, she said “I’m glad to know you aren’t into musicals!” But, for some reason that works for me. Date #2 with Sara? Strong possibility.
Posted by The Mormon Bachelorette at 8:00 AM